IM COMING OUT – I DON’T
WANT CHILDREN!
Having
children is a very serious issue that one must take time discussing with their
partners, and people’s opinions on whether married people should have kids or
not vary widely. In the article above, Zorka argues that she simply doesn’t want children,
and personally, I wouldn’t be able to back her up on this because mainly, she didn’t
give much reasons that explain her opinion. Family is a sacred institution, and
a family made up to a man and a woman is merely one, no matter how much the
couple love each other and are happy together, like the case of Zoe Zorka and
her husband. Families are supposed to be full of life, love, support, warmth
and bonds! Families in which there are no children might be weak for the couple
need something, like kids, that would serve as a bond or a common interest that
is made up of their own genes. How could
anyone refuse to have somebody that is considered a part of them, literally?
Zorka says, “I don't feel that it is right to raise a child in a home
full of stress.”, but children don’t really care about financial issues
as long as love and care are regularly delivered to them. Moreover,
children do change how parents perceive the world; they might even change their
opinion regarding this issue. After having children, one would feel like the
entire world lies in their hands, and THEY are in control. Also, children help
people exercise patience,
self-control, and understanding which are not only required by
parenthood, but also by the working place and everyday life. Some people, like
Zoe, might say that children need care that they can’t guarantee because of
their jobs, but they don’t know that they can compromise. For example, not all
parents have to sit with their kids all day long at home, they can send them to
daycare and there’s nothing wrong with that as Zoe claims, “A child
is not a cute accessory that you drop off at day care and pick up at night.”.
So, children form the basic units of families and having them adds such
incredible joys to the lives of parents, and when in doubt, Zoe and people with
the same opinion as her should always look at this issue through a bright
perspective.
On the other hand, I totally get why some people might not
want to have kids at all. People, like Zorka and I, love to be independent,
free of commitments and responsibilities that they don’t wish to handle. When I
get home, I want time for MYSELF to relax and cuddle with my husband. Don’t get
me wrong, I, like most people who don’t want to have kids, love children as
long as they are not mine. Also, people often say that couples who don’t want
kids are selfish, but as Zorka says, “It would be far more selfish to have a
child for the wrong reasons.” This means that people shouldn’t have
children just for the sake of society and judgemental people; it should be
their own choice and decision, because it would not be fair for the kids if it
weren’t. Additionally, some people are not financially stable and would rather spend
their money on their own amusement and luxury. For example, if the couple
worked jobs that don’t pay a lot, having children would put them in trouble
because they are obliged to supply their kids with basic needs like food,
clothes, shelter, education and many others. We all know people who knew that
they wouldn’t be able to support their kids if they had ones, but they
eventually had children who are now suffering because of their parents’
irresponsible decision. This is unethical. Finally, the decision of whether to
have kids or not should be taken only by the couple and no pressure of any
kind, be it from the family, friends or society, should be put on them because
they are free responsible adults.
Works Cited
Zorka, Zoe. "I'm Coming out --
I Don't Want Children." CNN. 2 Aug. 2013. Web. 22 Oct. 2015.
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